Breve Box - Jealousy

So Jealous written by: Anonymous
I'm not normally a shallow person. I'm not super concerned with looks; I prefer a good sense of humor, personality and intelligence over a perfect 10. I'll admit I DO like a "hot' guy to look at, no different than any other woman. But to spend the rest of my life with, or at least large amounts of my time with, I'd rather have someone whose not "perfect" but that I feel comfortable with and enjoy spending time with. That is what is attractive to me. The guy I've been...seeing, I guess. Not officially dating, but more than friends. He's not perfect by any means. He'd be considered short by most people. He's a little overweight; chubby in a cute cuddly way. He hates that he has two crooked teeth, but I love them, they make his smile so unique. He has gorgeous blue eyes that you can see from across the room. An infectious laugh to go along with his witty, dry sense of humor. He thinks he has big lips, but I think they are just right for his face, full and kissable. And so smart! He's so much fun to talk with, joke with, talk all night to. I haven't felt about someone like this in years. Not while I was married, not since my divorce. He's such a big part of my world. All of this to say, that since I usually don't judge people by their looks alone, I don't know why I'm so hurt that he has a new "girlfriend" who is short, fat and dumpy. Not the least bit attractive. And rude, and mean to other people. She's just not pleasant. I'm not the only person who think so, either. Everyone who has met her thinks she is just simply not a nice person. And when he's around her, he's not nice either. They make fun of other people, say nasty things, and jokes at other people's expense. He's better than that, I know he is, I've seen it. I've seen what a great guy he is, can be. So why would he choose this...girl...over me? Why spend time with someone that none of his friends like? What is so special about her? I know I'm not a supermodel by any means, but if she WAS then I would at least have some understanding; it would be physical. Still hurt, but understand. Why her? What about her is better than me? I'm so jealous I can't stand it.
Post mood: (Sad)
Tags: shallow person
Posted on 5/19/2010

written by: Anonymous on 5/19/2010

There's a story about the old lady in the nursing home, and she keeps leaning to one side or the other, and every time she does, an aide rushes over and straightens her up. Her son comes to visit, and asks, "How do you like it here?" and she replies, "I hate it. They won't let me fart."

You're a $1500 suit and Florsheim wingtips, while she's a pair of jeans and a stained sweatshirt, and the high priced suit is better, but in the privacy of his own home, a guy wants the comfort of jeans and a sweatshirt.

He enjoys making fun of other people, saying nasty things, and joking at others' expense because he feels inferior - and he likes being with his dumpy girlfriend because she accepts him, just the way he is.

The Marine Corps builds men - but when they head to town in mufti, they engage in conduct unbecoming the uniform, because being something you're not is incredibly exhausting.

Tell me, ma'am. Why did your first marriage fail? No matter what the specifics, it invariably boils down to the fact that being together was more of a pain than a joy. Instead of thinking of "Mr. Right", you need to think in terms of "Mr. Good Enough." Nobody's perfect - but if you figure out what you find essential, you can find someone who meets your needs when he isn't working at it. They say it takes a lot of work to make a marriage work - but if it takes a lot of work, it's a bad marriage. When you marry someone you're comfortable with, someone who accepts you "just the way you are", then you don't have to work at your marriage; it just comes naturally.

Find another guy, one who meets your needs effortlessly. This guy isn't himself when he's "better than that".

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